Many people, especially those with a penchant for unavailable relationships, struggle with rejection and take it very personally, which is unsurprising when they also fear making mistakes and engage in trying to ‘win’ people over.
Ever since I could remember, I've always been afraid of walking up and talking to women.
I can't explain where the heck it came from, because I have never had a woman throw her drink in my face or slap me - but this women.
I just had this unexplainable emotion in my head that would stop me from just walking up and saying "Hi" to a woman I wanted to meet.
I knew on the surface it was SO simple to do, but it felt like it was INFINITELY complicated below the surface.
Or…they languish in the sorrow of the rejection and they end up living in the past, thinking about the coulda, woulda, shoulda, shaming and blaming themselves, and avoiding their present and future.
The rejection triggers a previous rejection plunging them into more pain.We call this the "back turn," and it's one of those experiences guys hate more than anything.You get that sick feeling of not just being ignored, but de-valued as well.Unfortunately, if you have found yourself in unavailable relationships, especially as a Fallback Girl (or guy), you have some major issues with rejection, either taking it too hard and being derailed by it, or busting a gut to ensure that you don’t experience it, even though you actually .Every day I hear stories of people who are completely overwhelmed by rejection or repeatedly throwing themselves under the same rejection bus because they don’t want to deal with the pain of accepting someone’s choice in another person or their treatment of them.You’re feeling rejected about the fact that they didn’t change from what you find rejectionable. You wanted different things – that sounds a hell of a lot better than “They rejected me” especially because rejection automatically creates the assumption that are wholly and solely responsible for why the relationship hasn’t worked out or why they behave as they do – you’re not.