No matter how I tried to fix myself, I could never seem to get anything right. Now that I broke that off and haven’t spoken to him for four months, I got back into online dating.I have gone on four dates with the total opposite of the alpha guy.
I finally feel that I recovered after the two years, but had a very dramatic unhealthy relationship in between with someone who I did take my time with getting to know platonically at first, but he was a huge overcorrection from my ex.
The new guy was very alpha, and what came with that was incredible drama, fights, verbally aggressive language.
But as the weeks have passed, although I continue to feel strong and lingering feelings for my ex, my feelings for the new (beta, completely out of my usual range of attraction) guy have started growing.
He’s keen to progress things but I’ve kept him at arms-length (with honesty and openness about why).
I really enjoy his company a lot, but I never really thought of him as boyfriend material.
Not sure if I should pursue that, but if he keeps asking me out and it just naturally progresses like that, maybe I should open myself up, like Evan suggested in his response. We go into relationships with the best of intentions. But it can also be hurtful to the one who ends up being the transition person. I’m just suggesting that you understand their needs now may differ from their needs down the road. Sometimes, without anyone’s fault, we end up becoming a transition person. It can be very helpful to the one who is going through a divorce or mourning the loss of a loved one. Look Before You Leap Now, I am not here to discourage anyone from dating someone who may need a transition person, is going through a divorce, or suffering the loss of a loved one.Super beta, we kissed on our second date but now he wants to take a step back and be “just friends” for a while, even though he says he really likes me.So I’m kind of losing interest in this guy because I can’t really figure out what he wants, and maybe he doesn’t know either.Make sure you are emotionally available for a new relationship.