Letting go and just being friends can be something you just do silently within yourself. If you want this guy and want a different result than what you’re getting, it’s clear that you need to change what you’ve been doing.
Sure, maybe you weren’t drawing unicorns and rainbows with his name surrounded by hearts in your notebook, but you are definitely a strong believer that you’re “meant to be together.” As romantic as all that sounds, it actually damages your chances for success in actually starting something.Let’s look at why: To put it quite plainly, you want something that simply is not reality.It actually goes back to what I was saying in the last section – you will not be able to attract a relationship if you’re looking for it to fill an emotional void for you. Who knows, you might even end up meeting a better guy in the process. You never know if your true destiny is to meet your perfect man by accident… Open your options up so that you know that you’re not dependent on just one option. In order to keep the woman of his dreams from falling for another guy, Charlie Logan has to break the curse that has made him wildly popular with single women: Sleep with Charlie once, and the next man you meet will be your true love.
Dustin, an amiable guy, is in love with Alexis, a coworker.
The less he actually knows about her, the more he can fill in the gaps with his own fantasy.
It’s an illusion, but illusions can have tremendous power. The solution here and the first step to getting out of the friend zone in general: Let’s keep talking about the damaged goods scenario though and why it can be a major trap if you don’t catch yourself. You yourself have been a victim to your own fantasies and dreams about what you two could be together.
Hollywood loves to spread this idea that if someone rejects you, you should just push harder and harder and harder and suddenly, some magic event will happen and you’ll end up together. It’s better I give you a straight-up reality check because reality can be pretty cold when it comes to this kind of thing. Accept it and enjoy your guy friend as a guy friend.
The good news is that there’s a way to avoid this and possibly turn things around. Not in a dramatic, mean-spirited or punishing sort of way. When I finally spilled my guts about my feelings for her, she said she just didn’t have “those kind of feelings” for me. It might be tough, but if you add gravity to the situation or romanticize it or dramatize it, it will be 100 times tougher.
It happens to guys and it happens to girls and oftentimes, it can cause more heartbreak than an actual breakup. Well maybe one (or all) of these scenarios apply to your situation. He’s cute, he’s funny, and when he’s around you, he completely let’s his guard down. and you know exactly what the other person is thinking.