The Russian author portrays Western men as being completely passive and over-accommodating in bed, asking if we "need a pillow" or "a glass of water." I don't know who she slept with, but if any man asked me these questions during sex I'd kick him out of bed. But she correctly notes that most women want a man who's "a gentleman at dinner and an animal in bed." Well, I prefer a gentle animal.
The author is a young Russian woman who grew up in St.Petersburg, moved to New York and is now back in Russia teaching English.The most important factor is finding someone with a similar mentality who shares my passions and life goals.Maybe he's Russian, maybe he's American, maybe he's African?They squeeze you tightly because they want to possess you fully, and to possess always means, to some extent, to first destroy.
They bite your neck and bruise your arms for the same reason that tigers claw on the trees to mark their spot: to show other beasts of the jungle that you are taken, that there is a man to whom you belong." The word "possess" should not be used in human relationships. A couple is one unit, but each person should maintain individuality and interests, have outside friends and hobbies.If a man is being too gentle or primal, I'll tell him.Most American men appreciate it, but I'm not sure how a Russian man would react if a woman started giving him directions in bed?Each person is an individual, with their own unique traits.I've dated Americans, Eastern Europeans (Slovak and Ukrainian) and two Jewish guys.I think the author exaggerates the sexual distinctions between Russian and American men.