Teaching young people about dating and sex

While many parents think that explaining the consequences of sending out explicit images will get teens to stop, they may be missing the point.

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And then there was this: “[One] kind of sex game is bondage and discipline, in which restriction of movement (e.g.

using handcuffs or ropes) or sensory deprivation (using blindfolds or masks) is employed for sexual enjoyment. I frankly don’t want her debating with other 13-year-olds how well the adult film industry is practicing safe sex.” Another parent, Asfia Ahmed, who has eight and ninth grade boys, adds: “It assumes the audience is already drinking alcohol, already doing drugs, already have multiple sexual partners…Even if they are experimenting at this age, it says atypical sexual behaviors are normal.

Or where Robin Thicke’s “Blurred Lines” can refer to violent sexual acts in a music video viewed on the web at least 36 million times?

Or where, in a major news story, it becomes apparent that wholesome girls from teen adventure movies send naked photos.

And that’s the soft stuff: A national sample study of 1,500 10 to 17-year-olds showed that about half of those that use the Internet had been exposed to online porn in the last year.

How do you learn appropriateness and consent in a culture where Beyoncé’s song about pleasuring a guy in a car is championed by some as feminist and others as lewd?“I think denying that [sex] is part of our culture in 2014 is really not serving our kids well,” says Lara Calvert-York, president of the Fremont school board, who argues that kids are already seeing hyper-sexualized content—on after school TV.“So, let’s have a frank conversation about what these things are if that’s what the kids need to talk about,” she says.“I had sex with my older boyfriend at 16,” says Ashley Jones, 22, a young Georgia woman. ” (The Kinsey institute puts the average age that kids have first have sex at 16.9 for boys and 17.4 for girls.) Current sex education, where it does exist, often teaches the basic plumbing, but it’s not answering the questions young people really have when it comes to sexuality: What should I do when my girlfriend/boyfriend is pressuring me to have sex?“Suddenly my dad wanted to talk about the birds and the bees. What on earth was happening in that video I probably shouldn’t have clicked online?“We don’t say, ‘they’re going to drink anyway, let’s give them a car with bigger airbags.’” The parents note that the book was actually written for college students, and refers to college-related activities like bar crawls.